“No one can persuade another to change. Each of us guards a gate of change that can only be opened from the inside. We cannot open the gate of another, either by argument or by emotional appeal.”
—Marilyn Ferguson

Embracing the mindset of a high achiever involves being self-motivated. We are all our own cheerleaders, and the only person we can truly influence is ourselves. Being a self-starter is a key attribute of a productive individual.

Self-Starting: Key Attributes

• Initiative: Demonstrates a willingness to begin working.
• Work Ethic: Possesses a strong belief in achieving results.
• Proactiveness: Takes initiative and does whatever it takes to meet objectives.
• Confidence: Projects self-assurance in initiating tasks.
• Timeliness: Starts promptly to avoid setbacks.
• Assertiveness: Asserts oneself in both personal and professional spheres.
• Responsibility: Willingly begins work regardless of circumstances.
• Accountability: Accepts personal responsibility for achieving goals.
• Effectiveness: Functions well and achieves results despite challenges.
• Independence: Acts without waiting for direction.
• Attributes: Displays self-confidence, conscientiousness, assertiveness, persistence, and a focus on achievement.

Among these attributes, personal responsibility is where many professionals struggle. Mistakes and unmet goals are common, and how we respond to them can reveal much about our mindset.

When was the last time you made a mistake or failed to achieve a goal? What was your initial reaction? Did you blame someone or something else? Did you avoid the issue, argue about its relevance, or even deny it happened?

These are common defenses when we struggle to accept personal responsibility, whether for our own goals or those of our company.

Shifting to an Achievement Mindset

To develop a mindset focused on achievement, consider the following steps:

1. Eliminate Blame: If you’re blaming others or external factors, recognize this as a misstep. The challenge is to become aware of when you're doing this.
2. Explore the Root: Get curious about why you are placing blame. Understanding the underlying reasons can provide clarity.
3. Self-Understanding: Reflect on how you have become the person you are today.
4. Acknowledge Facts: Look at the situation objectively, setting aside personal judgments.
5. Affirm Your Efforts: Reassure yourself that you are doing the best you can.
6. Learn and Adapt: Recognize that mistakes are opportunities for growth and commit to doing things differently in the future.

Embracing self-compassion is crucial. By understanding that mistakes are a natural part of being human, you can approach them with tenderness toward yourself. This compassionate approach is one of the most valuable investments you can make in your personal and professional development.